Support comes in many different ways, one of those was by my friend who is (not my friend at this point) just kidding. He gave me a hand to get this blog up and running, which I had been thinking about for several month and even though it is really quite easy to do once someone with the right expertise helps, by myself I have gone down many dead ends. So after setting up the Word Press Blog it had no postings.
In an effort to support me in learning what I need to, he posted the following comments on this site and others that were worse .Then sent me an email to go and fix them before anyone else got to see them.
“My name is David, and I’m a whiner. I am successful, healthy, happily married, with 2 great kids, a bunch of very good friends, four very cool pets, no mortgage…Please save me from myself.
This in the words of my daughter was “harsh”, however it really made me step up and learn how to use Word Press to remove them and on the way I have learned some other stuff that I would probable not have used normally. In exchange for this support I have supported him to get a web site that he has been trying to get up and running for months that only needed a few hours of work on his mercury detoxification website.
He had spent months procrastinating on this project and so for my part I have asked him to do one or two simple things on it each day and report back to me, which he has, and now he has a site that is up and running. It would be easy for him to leave the site alone now he has reach his goal, however, I have no such plan and with ongoing support I think he should do well.
The key to support is to find someone that will hold your feet to the flames when you would normally come up with avoidance strategies. This person could be a friend, coach, family member or who ever you think will keep you moving towards your goal and won’t be sucked in by your BS, stories or anything else that you use to avoid going in the direction that you said was most important to you.
BS stands for “basic story” it can also stand for other things, but your basic story is a story that you tell yourself or others to justify, explain or excuse why you do not have what you set out to get. Some of my stories were , It’s way to complicated, I need to know more about computers, I’ll do it when I have more time, etc. Make a list of all these reasons and then write a positive, affirmative statement beside it. So for instance “It’s way to complicated” could become “I,ll find someone who knows how to do this to support me”.