Whose business is it anyway? Sometimes I find my mind is full of thoughts that I get lost in. Some of them are really positive and others not quite that good. I’d like to say that I am always able to let go of the not so positive thoughts, but this is not always easy.

One of the best methods I have found for letting go of these thoughts is to divide them up and give them back to their rightful owners. There are three kinds of business:

1. Gods Business.
2. Their Business.
3. My Business.

The first kind of business is Gods Business or some higher power. I really like this kind of business because I can do nothing about it, even though sometimes I get stuck there for a while thinking I can, like earthquakes, when someone dies, the state of the world today. Yes I’d love to fix these problems in the world, but people have been trying for thousands of years and we still seem to have just as many problems as before. It could just be that this is the way it is supposed to be, so that we will learn what we need to learn which is, we don’t have any control over it anyway even though we would like to think we do.

The second kind of business is Their Business and this is anything that someone else does or thinks. Give it up, it’s not your business, Yes – it would be nice if other people thought nice things about you and that they took your advice to fix their lives but as you have probably noticed most people don’t do this until they’re ready to, and sometimes that day never comes. This happens in relationships where people spend years trying to change the other person and nothing happens, it may appear to happen for a short time by enforcement but soon they return to their old path. Until one day one realizes that this is who they are and not the fantasy of who one thought they should be. At this point we can make it Our Business.

This kind of business is my own business and I can make a change here. I have complete control over what I  think. I am at the most powerful place in the world here. I have a choice in this moment as to what I wish to focus on. Yes, the earthquake may happen, someone may not like me or even be the way I think they should be and I don’t need to take it on, it’s their business. I can get stuck in other people’s business or I can let go of it because it’s not mine and by doing this I create a lot less suffering in my world and those around me.

Being in my business allows me to make a choice. For instance if I was downhill skiing and there was an avalanche, I could choose to try and outrun it or find a tree to climb. Not that I recommend it, but you could choose to stand there and see what happened and I’m sure there are a lot of other options too. The avalanche happened but what I do with it is up to me. It’s my business.